As I read some of the above answers…and culling from my own life…I think women in general still really would like a modicum of grace in their partners…grace, thoughtfulness, chivalry and romance.
I have been on dates with loud, pushy guys who meet you at the door, walk in front of you, won’t open your car door….and then talk/talk/talk…..about themselves, their work, their life. On the other hand, you have the guy who watches too much Dr Phil and has all the “right lines”: “So, tell me…have you accomplished everything in your life that you wanted?” Leans forward, hands under chin. Uh…what? I don’t know you. I don’t really want to discuss that with you yet. We haven’t even ordered a drink yet. You realize that this is the “new” way of figuring out how much money you make and/or if you are a loser. It used to be that if you just had a job, that was okay. Now, it’s how diverse isyour portfolio, who do you know and how accomplished are you? Men complain about women being picky…but men do the same thing. I’ve seen that.
In the end, what I have learned is this: the turn-on is chemistry. And I say this because I have gone out with men who are accomplished, wealthy, gorgeous and tick all the boxes…thoughtful, romantic, wonderful. But something is missing…chemistry. That unknown factor that seals the deal.
So, really…what turns me on? Someone who has the chemistry to turn me on…and I don’t mean just physically…but with the intelligence, strength, humor and whatever that X-factor is…that cannot be calculated.