Meg and I were great fans of bondage. J is eagerly “learning the ropes” as it were. We are not into heavier aspects of the kink, such as S&M. We do a lot of tactile play, but no hitting, cutting, burning, etc.
The restraint gear that we use are soft, silk-like rope and sheepskin padded leather cuffs. I don’t like locking devices, as Meg had and J has PTSD problems; I need to be able to release her instantly should there be a panic reaction. The cuffs are of my own design and making, fastening with industrial Velcro. Rope bindings can be cut away quickly if necessary using EMT scissors. Meg particularly enjoyed the artistic Japanese style of rope bondage, frequently asking me to “decorate” her. In my limited experience, ladies really enjoy cunnilingus while restrained.
Our playroom converts into a sort of “dungeon”. Much of its furnishings being dual-purpose.
Blindfolds and gags are a no-no for us, PTSD triggers. I also dislike anything that interferes with communication, this being vital to safe BDSM play. It’s also essential that both parties understand and agree to the rules of play and agree on safewords to be religiously respected before any scene begins. Remember that the dominant may be tying the knots but the submissive controls the scene.