If you pick her up and hold her the same way as when it was her idea, then I imagine perhaps she’s not wanting to be picked up right then, and not used to the idea of people picking her up when it’s not her idea. She may learn to like it in time, but cats don’t generally get made to do things, and they resist being controlled, but they can be shown something they like.
One thing to try is picking them up in a non-controlling way, so they can jump away if they want, but try to have it be nice for them so they might not see it as control, and might learn to like what’s happening when you pick them up.
Another thing is trying to make her enjoy being held by you by petting, etc. That’s easier with older cats since young cats tend to be more interested in activity on their own feet, while older cats tend to be more into comfort and human contact.