@zophu
I have known many people in my life that regardless of any and all attempts by well meaning people they did not change. I have watched people kill themselves and O.D. who had love and support. Many people in my youth tried to stop me from using drugs and alcohol. But it was only when I reached out to them that I changed. It had to originate from within for any lasting change.
But yes, do reach out. Do make it available but they must meet you halfway or it only becomes about you and your need to help, control, influence, cajole, change, win or appease your own guilt. The greatest compassion is often like a sword. It penetrates to the heart of the matter but make no mistake it cuts us as well. It’s two edged. You must be willing to cut through your own delusion.
Someday you may laugh when someone you love utters some sage advice that was given them by a friend when you know you had told them the same thing years before. It doesn’t matter. Some truths take years to be understood and when they do they ring through your mind like a bell that illuminates a pattern that can be traced through your entire life. If it’s really about them and them finding the help they need it matters not the source of where that help originates. We’re all one.