@Trillian
I’m sorry, but…that’s why I asked the question. Without giving my thoughts…I wanted to see if someone could provide the contrary.
You have described the situation I think is most common, and what I would feel when I was saying “I’m bored.” It generally means that I would mostly be frustrated more than anything else.
You laid out an emotional scenario where you felt a series of things, and then said “I’m bored” to your ex. I am saying that I think that’s how most people feel when they say it. I’m saying I think it’s dismissing the person you say it to, which is what you seemed to feel like doing. I said I never said you should do or say anything different, but that “I’m bored” has synonyms that a lot of people don’t readily recognize.
I’m actually saying that I admired you for saying “This was how I felt when I say ‘I’m bored’” and that’s how I think most of us, including myself, would feel when they say it.
Let me rephrase it. If someone told you “I’m bored with what you’re saying” thats insulting in my opinion, and nothing but. Whatever that variation, if it is directed at you. If it is separated from you and about the person’s internal state, it’s not interesting to know. Saying “I’m bored” is either saying nothing at all or a call to the world to try to entertain you.
I don’t really get why you think I’m challenging how you feel when I have already said that I’m not trying to say you did anything wrong….