Sounds good to me!
…and the drumroll please….
Now see if you can consider this: (and this is in no way related to my life, just a total hypo I was pondering yesterday – let’s make that clear) So…there’s a virgin (girl or boy, for argument’s sake) who, at a very young age, is forced onto the streets. This boy/girl feels and has always felt very, very strongly in their sexual convictions and had made a promise to “save themself” for love/marriage/etc. Struggles become greater and greater on the streets (I’m just developing the emotional connection to the character now…) and the need to survive leads to prostitution. No feeling, love, enjoyment involved and it tears him/her up inside to betray the promise he/she made to himself/herself. In fact, each time this character contributes sexually to survival, he/she feels as if he’s/she’s dying inside. It’s horrible. But, soon the tables turn and an opportunity to leave the streets manifests itself. Things get better and he/she begins to build a positive life…totally celibate now, as if he/she has blacked out the entire era of struggle and strife. Life carries on and eventually opportunities for sexual relationships surface, but are dismissed. Finally, this person meets “the one” and falls in love. Their past is dark and almost never discussed, it’s too grim. But deep inside, they still feel the want and desire to loose their “virginity” to the person of their dreams. They have always associated virginity with love, commitment and a deep connection and truly acknowledge that they would feel differently had their sexual past not been directly associated with survival.
In that specific instance, would you grant that person the ability to refer to themself as a “virgin”?
Again…this is not my life so don’t waste any “oh, you poor girl” comments on me, but the scenario crossed my mind. I probably watch too much TV. I have an extremely vivid imagination and what may be a decent ability to write creatively. I’m so curious how people would sympathize/not sympathize with this type of association to the definition of virginity. Sorry for the lengthy story…just thought it would help. :)