I appreciate the speculation, but I left my computer mid-craft. hah. Didn’t realize I had an audience.
@johnpowell @ducky_dnl
Your responses explain a lot too, like why you’re still alone.
I’m not “needy” and I have not “shut-down.” There are just times when it’s hard to focus while my boyfriend is on the opposite side of the world, and we haven’t gotten the chance to talk in weeks. When we break up, that will be a completely different story and I don’t see how it’s relevant to this issue. I’ve dealt with pain, loss, and heartbreak before. It’s not that I miss “constant affection.” I miss him. I don’t understand how that’s “baffling.” Have either of you ever been in a relationship where you had to be away from your gf/bf for 4 and a half months? Because I’m betting not. Fuck, have either of you ever been in love? Have either of you even been in a serious relationship? Because it sure as hell doesn’t sound like it.
Here’s the deal. I spent 18 years of my life being alone. It’s not something I’m a stranger to; it’s not something I can’t handle. I’ve handled my boyfriend being away for 2 months now. Approaching the half-way mark, in a new setting, I’m starting to feel the distance more. I don’t understand how that makes me clingy or unstable. I also find it funny that you are trivializing my relationship to physical pleasure. Grow up, @ducky_dnl, your lack of relationship experience is glaringly obvious.
Now you two can either continue to make unhelpful, stupid remarks about my mental health and belittle my situation, or you can answer the fucking question and offer practical advice. Thank you kindly.