I was married for 12½ yrs. I got counseling and asked how long it takes, if I did the work needed, to get over it. I was told 2 yrs minimum, and usually more like 5. That a person has to grieve, no matter what the circumstances were, and really look at themselves and the other person, the dynamics etc. and if that all isn’t addressed, a person is kidding themselves that they’re healthy, over it and ready for another relationship. I’m afraid you are already in the position of the ” transitional relationship”. I’ve been in that position. It sucks big time. The person is vulnerable, struggling etc. and you fall for them. Then, when they’re better, they say, “I will never forget you.” A transitional relationship is like a cooling, healing salve on an open wound. It’s a unique relationship. . .not real in the sense of relationships in which both are healthy and ready, I’m afraid. I was one more than once. I then would not date someone who had not been single at least two yrs, AND had a transitional relationship. I feel for you. I would recommend that you get some counseling and be sure to take care of yourself, because you’re at risk. . . you said you are in love. The worst was when one man told the, “I’ll never forget you” thing, but then added, “The next person in my life will owe you so much.” Keep your eyes open and try to be objective and see the truth of the situation, not hang on in hope, if you see your love is not isn’t reciprocal. Good luck.