You have go into a relationship trusting your partner. If you don’t you will never get off the ground. Your attitude will be cynical or negative and it will erode or poison the relationship.
I am not suggesting that you reveal your innermost secrets or your personal financial statements on the first date but you have to start out assuming that things are going to go well and that he or she is being honest and genuine in order for the whole thing to be healthy. If he or she is untrustworthy, that will come out sooner rather than later and the relationship will end up on the trashheap where it probably belongs.
The one thing you must have is trust. Without it, you’re finished. Whether dating or approaching your 40th anniversary. Many transgressions can be forgiven and even forgotten but not a betrayal of trust..
Based on your comments, I would cut your losses and dump this clown. It’s better to sit at home with a six-pack of Budweiser and a good DVD than to go out and waste your time with someone like this.
SRM