If you are truly interested in the cons…
- You will be stationed where ever the military wants you. That could be states away from your friends and family, and even maybe a completely different country.
- He will go away for weeks, months, and sometimes even a year (or more) at a time to places he can’t take him with you.
- He may get stationed somewhere abroad on an unaccompanied tour, meaning you can’t go with him (at least not on the military’s dime).
- The Army can call him in at just about any time they want, any day of the week, and any time of the day. His work day may stretch to be 12 + hours a day depending on the unit he is at and how they handle PT.
- There will be times that you will feel like a single mother. You will be responsible for taking care of the house and your child by yourself (like when he is away).
- There will be many times that you feel like the military comes first, and honestly, sometimes it does, but that isn’t a choice the soldiers really have.
- He will miss holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries.
There are many pros in addition to the benefits, but the cons are what lead to divorces. It really takes a strong relationship, with a good foundation of trust and great communication.