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Does "love" conquer all?

Asked by Evelyn_475 (792points) November 6th, 2010

I have heard from many individuals that if you truly love someone nothing should stop you from being with that person. I feel like I found love but I was still unhappy with things such as my partners economic status, family baggage and things of that nature. How much weight should those types of things hold? Am I wrong for taking those things into consideration?

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Judi's avatar

No.

If you’re talking about love the “feeling,” you would be crazy to not take anything else into consideration.
Lasting love is a decision that you enter into with clarity. Choosing to commit to a person in spite of their faults and in spite of the circumstances, but vertically not blind to them.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Love can overcome a lot of things, but only if the other person meets you half way. If those things bother you, are you sure it’s true love, and not infatuation and fascination?

Judi's avatar

stupid iPhone. “certainly” not “vertically.”

Andreas's avatar

@Evelyn_475 From another viewpoint: Obsession can also “feel” right, and yet it’s truly nothing of the sort. In my sick and previous past I had many obsessions for women, that definitely weren’t OK. That was how sick I was.

I’m not suggesting this is you, just giving you food for thought.

All the best in your search.

lillycoyote's avatar

No, it doesn’t.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Read my lips, NO love cannot conquer all. Love can not make a physically abusive relationship any better. When you decide that you want to step to anyone you have to take all things into consideration. When you get together with him/her you become one unit, you have to deal with their baggage, mood swings, economics, past children if any, snoring, etc. It is one thing to date someone and another to live with them 24/7. I would say anyone not taking those things into consideration is acting damn foolish. How you get through those things is a test of your resolve and your commitment, but some things you can’t gloss over.

Ellis1919's avatar

You’re not wrong for taking other things into consideration. It depends what you mean by economic status and family baggage. Is it just some little thing you can get past or is it something you can’t avoid? Are you unhappy because you thought things would change this far along or are these issues new? Love can conquer all sometimes if both parties are willing to work at it. Although it pains me to say this, even I know that sometimes loves just isn’t enough.

Berserker's avatar

I don’t think it does, no. However I’ve never felt it, so I can’t really say, but if I must observe it at work as it’s defined by most, I’d really say no.

Frenchfry's avatar

Yes. You can go through and do a whole bunch of shit . Atleast in my family they will still love you. It is a nice feeling.

flutherother's avatar

Yes and no, because there is love and there is love. What I am trying to say is that true love is the most marvellous thing in the universe and worth more than everything else put together. That is just my personal belief but I also believe that true love is very rare.

rooeytoo's avatar

It never did for me. Once the breathless, I can’t live without you feeling ebbs, those nagging annoyances start springing up all over the place. And they can and often do grow into raging resentments.

As I always say though, I am a realist with only a small measure of romantic mixed in, so perhaps I am not the best person to ask.

Andreas's avatar

@Evelyn_475 Another point: It take two (2) to make a relationship work, but only one (1) to stuff it up! Please bear that in mind.

Coloma's avatar

No.

As others have said, love is a choice, a choice to commit, but has nothing to do with ones own sense of happiness and inner security.

As ‘they’ say, love doesn’t pay the rent.

Once the infatuation wears off and you are face to face with the real person, habits, quirks, moods…that’s the test.

I have consciously chosen to not be in relationship for the past 5 years, I enjoy my single status and freedom from relationship obligations and so far, nothings changing. lol

Mikewlf337's avatar

No it doesn’t. Love destroys more of yourself. I have had the most devastating experiences trying to find. It isn’t worth it.

marinelife's avatar

I think love is worth it. It is not meant to conquer all. If you love someone, you love all aspects of them including their economic status and their family baggage.

If you are feeling nagging problems around those things, then you are not truly loving the person.

ZAGWRITER's avatar

no love does not conquer all. In some cases, it just delays the inevitable.

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

“I feel like I found love but I was still unhappy with things…”

Love is made, not found. It’s not just floating around out there waiting to be caught like a butterfly. If you want love, then create it.

He, is not a thing. You are free to create love for him, regardless of the things. But please don’t try to cure him of his things. That’s not love. That’s control.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Not exactly. All the love you have cannot cure or rescue another person- you can’t reason that all you give should cancel their negatives because you’ll end up frustrated. Another person can be challenged, inspired and made secure by your love in order to try to deal with their own stuff but it’s harder than it seems it should be. They have to do the stuff and as hard as it is to accept, their failures usually aren’t because they don’t love you enough or want you (you the idealized couple) enough. If your person has baggage that is damaging to you as a couple and doesn’t take steps to deal with it then what @ZAGWRITER says is true.

Aster's avatar

No, not in a romantic liason. In a family, I hope so.

Blackberry's avatar

No, it doesn’t. That’s a fairly tale.

ucme's avatar

Nah, that’ll be a nuclear winter!

Self_Consuming_Cannibal's avatar

I don’t think you are wrong for taking those things into consideration. I personally wouldn’t let anything other than the person I loved stop me from being with them, but you have to live your life and with the consequences from the decisions you make. Good luck.

gravity's avatar

When you are 15 then love conquers all, but as an adult, all those things come into play… and for a reason. The reason is that they matter. Sorry my punctuation is not perfect but I feel I may have lived long enough to answer this question. You can love someone that is poor and you can love someone that is rich. You can love someone that is stingy and you can love someone that is generous. You can love someone that is tall and you can love someone that is short. You can be in love with someone that you feel is your soulmate and you can love someone that compliments you. It is all YOUR choice and YOU know if it is right or not…. What can you live with and what can you not live without? that is a good question….

RealEyesRealizeRealLies's avatar

No, love does not conquer all. But it has been know to kick my ass pretty good.

dindinbaby's avatar

My Grandmother gave me some great advice. Whether or not
a situation will work all depends on how much shit you’re willing to put up with. Aside from the fact that you love him, is this the kind of shit you’re will to put up with?

Deja_vu's avatar

Conquer and destroy

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