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stewbaby1970's avatar

Is there someone else?

Asked by stewbaby1970 (37points) October 17th, 2016

So I have been talking to this woman a couple months, we have seen each other 4 times, first two times was at her house, but now we have to meet she says she don’t want her ex to see a vehicle in the driveway because he helps with her bills. But she will carry me to her house but we normally meet at like 6 and date normally over by 7:30 or 8. She has canceled on me many times and only sees me one day a week. I feel like she is also seeing someone else but will not say, She will carry me to her house but seems like when she did she wanted to get me back to my car when it got to be 7:30. It’s just weird that first two times I could go there but now she has to meet me, she calls me paranoid I’m I really look at all the things that are gone on, also she says she really likes me but sees me once a week and sometimes moves it to the next day or the next day but can see me only once. I feel like when someone really likes someone they want to see them as much as possible unless there is someone else then things are always screwed up. I’m I wrong to think that?

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Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

Sounds to me like it is you who is her secret lover on the side. She just hasn’t told you that yet. You can either be satisfied with that, or push for answers that she may not be willing to give.

Seek's avatar

I agree, sounds like you are the “someone else”.

jca's avatar

I’d tell her it feels like something is going on and can she please be honest with you.

elbanditoroso's avatar

She’s a cheater and you are the dupe.

Ask yourself, is it worth it? Seems strange to me

rojo's avatar

When you say “seen” do you mean: we had a nice dinner then it was time for me to go, we had a nice dinner and talked and talked then it was time to go or we had a nice dinner and then boinked until it was time for me to go?

chyna's avatar

Sounds like she is expecting someone else to show up after 7:30 and wants you out.

stewbaby1970's avatar

Actually we have not had sex.

janbb's avatar

I suspect she’s still involved with her Ex. I had a prospect who kept making dates with me then would cancel because of a death in the family. I caught on.

si3tech's avatar

@stewbaby1970 I agree with @Espiritus_Corvus and @Seek , You are the “someone else”. She is not being honest with you. Welcome to fluther.

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

@janbb Just curious: How many deaths in the family before you caught on?

janbb's avatar

Well, when his grandmother died for the second time, it was a strong clue.

Espiritus_Corvus's avatar

❤ the Penguin!

ZEPHYRA's avatar

Mmm, she’s in a needy relationship with her ex. Run away and move on.

Sneki95's avatar

@janbb “when his grandmother died for the second time”

Maybe it was the other grandmother? :D

anniereborn's avatar

Whether or not there is someone else, she is treating you like shit. Who needs that?

jca's avatar

@janbb: I was thinking what @Sneki95 was thinking. He could very possibly have had two grandmothers.

MollyMcGuire's avatar

Uh huh.

Have you considered detective work s a career?

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