Is it ok to kiss a woman on the first date?

If there is mutual chemistry then I say go for it. Just don’t stick your hands down their pants, THAT will make it look like you are just after sex.

Sure, if you’re both feeling it. I prefer a hug, myself.
Asking is good. :)

I suppose it depends on the woman. To me it seems a smidge needy.

Yes, but it’s probably not going to do either of you any favours if you go further than that!

If you are both obviously digging each other, I don’t see any problem with it. If you are unsure of how she feels about you, however, I wouldn’t risk it.

From my own limited experience: not kissing a girl at all after a “good” first date is disastrous. Correct me if I’m wrong, ladies, but if you don’t give them a goodnight kiss of some sort – they go off wondering all night what is wrong with them. I think the women should offer a hug, but if they are stand-offish, and you still feel that the date went well, give them a nice kiss on the cheek and look them in the eyes saying that you had had a great time and will call them tomorrow. And call.

@Zen Great answer. The kiss on the cheek is money. It shows that you are a sweet guy and you care for her, and it avoids the whole “he may just be looking for sex” controversy.

@TenaciousDenny cool.

It’s fine. Asking is great and very sweet. If a guy asks if he can kiss me, even if I said no, I would think it was sweet. Just, you know, if she says no make sure you follow it up very nicely like, “Well, I had a really great time with you tonight. I’d like to call you again.” Something like that.

For the record, I’ve never felt a guy was looking for sex if he respected my space and me enough to ask before kissing me.

@asmonet & @EmpressPixie You girls really like being asked first? I always thought it was better to just go ahead and plant a gentle kiss (under the right circumstances, if the chemistry is right etc.)

@Paul: If you’re getting a 50% rejection rate on this question, you should consider changing what you’re doing.

The potential problem: Asking whether you can kiss a woman can be sweet, but it can also come across as needy. It’s probably a little less likely that you will come across as just wanting sex, more likely that you’ll appear needy. It’s probably better to either kiss the woman (as rusty says, based on the circumstances) or just kiss her on the cheek.

The potential problem #2: You should try to figure out whether the woman wants to be kissed before you ask. You should know whether the date has gone well or gone poorly. And you should might also be able to pick up on whether she wants to be kissed based on her body language.

Your goal on the first date, after all, isn’t to get kissed, but to figure out whether you and the woman you’re on a date with are going to have the chemistry or compatibility or whatever to have an actual relationship. And you’re also trying to lay the groundwork for that potential relationship. So it’s probably best not to go with a strategy that leads to 50% of your respondents saying No.

Along with rusty, I am skeptical of whether women actually enjoy being asked whether they want to be kissed. It does sound sweet, but I don’t think it would come across that way. Though I’m sure it’s nice for the women who don’t want to be kissed.

@whackyrusty: I’ve been in both situations. If the timing is right, a kiss is nice. But being asked was kind of on a whole other level. It was amazing and nice. And yes, a bit awkward, but the beginning of a relationship always is.

Well sure it is.

I coerced my babe to kiss me on the first date. I would have done it, but I wanted him to.

I think being asked is cute. If a guy says “i really want to kiss you” I’d take it as them pretty much asking permission, which is sweet, in my opinion. I don’t mind if they ust go for it either.
I’m married, and my husband usually tells me before he’s going to kiss me haha

@casheroo aww how cute

I kissed him before our first date. Does that make me a slut? we got married, so I think not

If you’re feeling a kiss, then GO FOR IT! Life is NOT a dress rehearsal!

Yes, if she’s fine with it. Why not?