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Feeling jaded...what is wrong?

Asked by Lorenita (735points) October 15th, 2009

Hello, I need some advice.. lately i’ve been feeling jaded.. really i mean.. i have a boyfriend who i really love.. but somehow it’s like i started to ask myself if i could love someone else like i love him.. and lots of questions about my relationship.. maybe im just “addicted to love” and my relationship is moving towards another stage where you are not all the time feeling the initial adrenalin?? so what should I do? I dont ever want to break up with him.. i just dont know how to handle these feelings.. on top of these issues i’ve been on lexapro for 2 months and about two weeks ago quitted cold turkey, since then im having strange thinkings.. is lexapro doing this to me? Also , im under lots of stress due to my law school bar exam.. what the hell is wrong with me? is it that i cant live without feeling in love ?? thats ridiculous
Help me please..!

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Samurai's avatar

It should work out work out for the best most of time, whatever your doing. Try putting yourself in a different mind set then you are already in. By the way, those kind of drugs really mess you up.

Depression is from thinking of the past, anxiety is from thinking of the future. To balance these try thinking of the wost possible out come, then the best possible out come in either order. Most of the time its something in between.

I don’t know if this can be of any help, but if I were you I would just see how things turn out. Worrying isn’t effective at all.

Iclamae's avatar

Whoa.
You’re stressed, you’re off your meds, and you’re feeling like your relationship is in a lull. I don’t know much about Lexapro but I would guess that the withdrawal could be having some effect on you, especially when adding the stress on top.
Every relationship goes through a lull. You’re probably reacting to it and adding it to your stress when you normally wouldn’t notice. You could try talking it out with your guy. He could try to give you more attention to help you through this.
I went through a withdrawal from a migraine medication (which could be used as an antidepressant) and I went through a very similar phase of questioning everything, my guy too. You could just ask him to be super supportive through the next couple of weeks till you get yourself sorted out.
Is Lexapro something you could ask your doctor about recovering from?

Saturated_Brain's avatar

I agree with @Iclamae (GA for that great answer), it could be the medication. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll also question your relationship from time to time. Personally, I believe that we all just suffer from “The Grass is Greener” syndrome. You probably aren’t feeling the initial high after the relationship has moved onto more stable ground, and you should take this opportunity to build upon it and move higher and higher up.

Still, I think that all this should come after your bar exam. That’s what you should be focusing on at this point in time.

wundayatta's avatar

Is English your native language? It doesn’t sound like it. At least, not if you’re in law school, but you write that way.

Anyway, Lexapro is for depression, unless you’ve been prescribed it for some off-label purpose. If you’re depressed and you’re about to take an exam that is crucial for your future employment opportunities and you just took yourself off your meds, I’m surprised you aren’t behaving even more strangely.

With such pressure, it can be difficult to connect with your lover. You’re distracted and jumpy and maybe a little depressed. Maybe you think he isn’t treating you right, or that he’s irritable. I don’t know. However, there should be no surprise that you are having some “strange thinkings.”

You should never dump a drug like that cold turkey. It is always better to come off drugs like that with the supervision of a medical specialist. You know the saying, “A physician who treats himself has a fool for a doctor?” Well, if you’re not even a doctor and you’re treating yourself, what kind of doctor is that?

In any case, you should probably see a physician as soon as you can. You may want to see a psychiatrist, too. Most people go off their meds because they don’t like the side effects. Instead, you should see a psychiatrist and find something else that works better with fewer side effects.

It’s also normal, when you’re depressed, to feel like things aren’t working well with your significant other. You also question yourself, the way you are about whether you’re a love addict or something. Well, when you’re depressed, it can often feel like you’re unloved and that you need a new love in order to fix you.

Please go see a doctor. Tell the doctor everything that is going on. Ask if you should see a psychiatrist. Don’t make any decisions about important life events (like breaking up, or moving out) while you are in an unsettled state. There’s a good chance you aren’t thinking the way you normally do (as you have recognized). You may well make a decision you will regret if you do.

—This is all advice my psychiatrist gave me when I was feeling somewhat similar things. He was right. If I’d gone with my emotions then, I might be dead by now; certainly, I’d not be together with my family, and I might not even have my job, or a place to live.

Zen's avatar

@Lorenita Welcome to fluther!

Supacase's avatar

I obviously don’t know you, but I am concerned.

I am typically a good writer, and I am assuming you are as well if you’ve made it into law school, but my writing resembled yours (rambling, lacking punctuation and capitalization) when I was very depressed and stressed out. My mind was running too fast for my fingers to keep up and it was too much effort to edit. I could be completely off-target, but that is my take based on my personal experience.

It sounds like you have a significant amount of stress and uncertainty in your life. Suddenly discontinuing medication, especially an antidepressant, is not a good idea with everything you have going on. I think you probably need to consider getting back on your Lexapro, but if you really want to stop taking it, you should talk to your doctor about about tapering off properly.

filmfann's avatar

Welcome to fluther. Lurve.

Remember, in every relationship, the love is not equal. Someone loves the other more.
Wow, what an idea for a question…

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hungryhungryhortence's avatar

It may not do much for your jaded feeling but acupuncture can help you ease off meds, lessen the withdrawal aches and pains and give you a little natural brain dope dump, kind of reacquaint your brain to non drug stimulus. It helped me heal from physical injury, got me off meds and eased insomnia. As I ask around, most insurances have some coverage for it.

NewZen's avatar

The Law school bar exam is very taxing, and it is understandable that you are under stress and duress. You should try to have as much sex and hot baths as possible; you will feel less jaded if you add a few drops of lemongrass and lavender to the bath.

Lorenita's avatar

I’ve been doing some research.. and it’s all Lexapro’s fault.. it inhibits your hability to love or stay in love.. I found some studies on this subject, and actually my emotional numbness might be worst due to the fact I stopped taking the medicine “cold turkey”, so I’m back on it and then i’ll slowly take it off my system.. I hate this feeling, it sucks.
Anyone else has experienced the same???

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