@SavoirFaire Actually it is extremely logical to value culture over race because culture includes LANGUAGE and traditions and usually religion which are pretty much more important than everything else especially language.
I am not American and so I value culture more highly than I value race. It appears that Americans do not value culture so heavily so maybe that is why they focus more on race. I think that the difference between Americans who refuse on basis of race and non-Americans who refuse on basis of race is that because race is usually tied to culture (but not always) -e.g. You can generally expect a person of the Japanese race to have Japanese culture and speak Japanese (but not always), non-Americans refuse on the basis of race because they are afraid that a person of another race will not have the same culture, whereas Americans refuse on the basis of race for the pure sake of race.
For example, I am Nigerian. Many Nigerian parents would be very unhappy if their child brought home a non-Nigerian for marriage. But those same parents would be equally unhappy if their child brought home a fellow Nigerian of a different race or ethnicity for marriage.
This is because Nigeria is made up of at least 200 completely different races or ethnicities who speak completely different languages, have completely different cultures, come from completely different historical empires and kingdoms and have completely different histories, behaviours, etc.
However, if the foreign (and by foreign I mean, different ethnicity Nigerian or non-Nigerian) spouse to be agrees to learn the language and the culture (and sometimes convert to the religion), everything is resolved and the parents are as happy as any whose children are about to get married.
And to be completely honest, I don’t blame them. I would be absolutely heartbroken if I had children and they couldn’t speak Igbo or they didn’t know what jimmanu was or they didn’t know anything about Anambra.
I think the solution is to commit to raising bi-cultural children (i.e. exposing the children to both parents cultures equally and making sure the children learn both parents’ languages and customs)