@BarnacleBill…...Thanks for that….what poignant lyrics…and I like the music, too.
@yankeetooter…..What happens when you marry the person that doesn’t pay attention to you? Or rather, you marry the person who stops paying attention to you right after you marry. (You get their attention, but you shouldn’t have, really.) Years of amazing heartache, feeling like you were hit by a truck, finding photos of someone else hidden in a drawer, stubs from expensive gifts that weren’t for you (and you get another bunch of flowers from the petrol station), sleeping with your face toward the wall so he won’t see how much pain you are in, hot tears stinging your face night after night, having to pretend in front of family and friends that everything is okay, when it most clearly it is not, all that expended energy into the lie…and the whole time you keep wondering, “What on earth was he thinking? And why couldn’t I have figured that out before this happened? ” And then you realize that it’s not about you (but that takes a long time) and you finally pack your bags and exit. You feel the pain, but not as much because there is this sense of outbreath, too. You are flapping your wings and it hurts, but you realize that if you keep running toward freedom, eventually a wind will pick you up and take you as far away as possible to a new life. And it does.
But you (thankfully) were spared that drama.
Don’t give up…think of it as a blessing in disguise. I promise you, it’s not about you. It is so very, very not about you….beautiful, wondrous, fantastically beautiful human being, you. Someone with the clearest vision to see all the beauty in you is coming and never settle for anything less than that.