I have helped a lot of people and am clearly on the credit side. I’m not worried about collecting. I can sleep easy knowing if I ever needed something, I’d get it.
The guy I helped with his legal troubles has told me “As long as I am sucking air, I’ll do whatever you need.” He means it.
I don’t like to make myself owe something from someone. I will owe someone if that person did someone I asked that person to do, not when they offer their ‘help’ and expect something in return from me.
I owe my ex husband a good deal of money, I owe several friends return favors I’d love to pay along the lines of entertaining them or putting them if they can come to visit. Other than that, I don’t owe anybody per se and my friends aren’t the sort who keeping a tit-for-tat tally of good times.
My wife and I are making a list of the “special favors” we will be “owing” for that week coming up when both boys are going to be away at camp. The list is getting longer every day! :))
Any favors I’ve done do not require payback, but I hope it’s paid forward. I try to thank people (a multitude) at the time of the favor. I believe we are all in this world together and we all need help from time to time. I don’t count favors and i don’t think my friends do either.
I owe a few people apologies that I have no intention of giving just yet. A few people owe me apologies.
My friend owes me some money, but I have not intention of bringing it up, ever, so the point is moot.
I owe my friends some fun time, because I’ve been giving them lots of grief lately.
I don’t believe in keeping score, but I do believe in reciprocity.
I ‘owe’ no one and the only person who ‘owes’ me is my daughter who is paying back a loan.
I don’t owe and nobody owes me. I don’t live my life in terms of doing so that I receive. If I do something for someone, it is because that seems like the right thing for me to do. If because of that, something good happens for me, great. If it doesn’t that’s cool too.