Ex#1 – I felt good when I talked to him. He seemed to understand me completely and I felt like we clicked quite well. We parted ways because of the distance. We may have also parted ways because our values weren’t completely the same. He ended it.
Ex#2 – I felt good when I talked to him. I felt like he understood me. He ended it because he barely ever got to see me, didn’t feel like we connected well, and felt that we had pretty much nothing in common. This came as a shock to me because I thought we did. It turns out he hid several of his actual interests from me and pretended to value what he thought I did. I fell in love with who I thought he was.
Ex#3 – I fell in love with him at a mutual friend’s birthday party. He shared his popcorn with me and carried me over puddles. He gave me so much attention and I couldn’t help but like him. We became a couple 3 days later. We had a lot of ups and downs in our relationship and ended up breaking up 3 times in the span of 2 years and 3 months. The first time, I tried to end it. The second time, he tried to end it. The third and last time, he suggested seeing other people and I didn’t like the idea… so he ended it. All 3 attempts at breaking up in this relationship were a result of us being way too different.
Ex#4 – I ended up falling in love with him because he seemed to respect me—he had even told me he did. He was there for me through so much when I was with Ex#3. He gave me so many ideas and tips on how to make it work (because he wanted to support me), even though Ex#3 had cheated on me with someone who had acted like she was my friend. I appreciated him not judging me for staying with a cheater when I did.
We ended up becoming a couple because of matchmakers. A girl I hung out with a lot at the time noticed how much I talked to him and she ended up falling for his brother. She would go on and on about how Ex#4 and I were the perfect match and how we should get together (marriage was even brought into this). To make things worse, his mother and brother also wanted him to date me.
While at first, we had plenty of good memories, things changed. I found out his mother accused my mother of some pretty nasty things and I was not happy about this at all. Neither was my friend. She was also growing very unhappy with his brother and eventually left (dramatically).
As time went on, Ex#4 and I started arguing more and more…. because of his mother and her accusations. I had his Mom on Facebook and she wanted me to delete this man I have on my Facebook because she was convinced the man was her sons father (when he does not even have any children and does not have the same last name as Ex#4 and his brother’s Dad). She also (according to what I was told, anyway) accused my mother of being part of a group who wanted to burn her house down and apparently did. Ex#4 could not take this fighting about our mothers and decided he wanted to end the relationship. He also told me he felt like he was lying when he said he loved me.