@gailcalled not really your call to make, now is it?
I am the supporter in my family. I am the one who comforts and finds the words and energy to keep everyone going. In my family, with the people I Iove, there is only me who is the giver of support.
NOW… SOMEHOW, after 10 years, I find enough reasons for sticking around and it isn’t because someone hugs me when I hurt, or pats me on the head when I need affirmation. I stick around because I manage to glean enough self esteem from what I am offered and shown. It has NOTHING to do with someone being at the whim of some tizz or rant I am in. If anything, by his distain and disinterest, he shows me how little my problem is or how insignificant it is in the scheme of things.
Don’t deride the discussion by asking ‘well, gee whizz, why ever do you stick around with someone who doesn’t entertain your every whim and whimper.’ Perhaps, you should ask yourself, why doesn’t your partner see your weaknesses and expect more from you.