This is a good question in the sense that it’s so subjective. There is absolutely no right or wrong answer. I’ve met the girls who are so knowledgeable and intellectual, but get turned on by physical compliments, and I’ve met non attractive physically girls not get turned on, I’ve met them in either way and anyone can defend their own case that’s for sure. The point of a bar, is for the most part, to drink, and drinking for the most part leads to conversations that are loose. With this logic, we can acknowledge there will be a lot of loose conversation in a bar setting. Some guys will talk with their mouths some with their penis’s. And vice versa, women will do it too, gay men will do it too, lesbians will do it too.
Of all my bar time experience. I’ve noticed just dancing is the best way to get comfortable. If no dance floor is present just the casual pool table invite or “would you like to sit over there? drinks on me” seems to work. But also girls know this, and love to use men for free drinks, with no expectation of bringing the guy home! Haha.