Yeah, @Aethelflaed, that part about me not taking disagreement personally is more of a goal than actual practice. I do the best I can, and in that direction when I can manage it. When it seemed that my original response was dissed, I ‘kind of’ got my back up. @minnie19 and I have worked that out, and we’re cool now. Obviously, if you parse exactly what I wrote there, I wasn’t talking “to” or “at” @minnie19, but “about” her (for posterity, anyone else in the thread, and anyone who finds it later). But we’re on the same wavelength now, anyway. Thanks for noticing.
I still stand by the old school model that when your parent respectfully requests something non-extraordinary (especially in front of company, and most especially in front of strangers) that it’s a sign of good breeding, and in that sense good manners, to respond as quickly and cheerfully as possible. Ignoring a parent’s reasonable response is more or less rude, depending on the tone of the request, the request itself, what else is going on, etc. I don’t think kids should be expected to move on a dime every time, but their upbringing should be such that the default position would be to do that when possible. And that’s all I have to say about that.