@Nullo A Pig and a Chicken are walking down the road. The Chicken says, “Hey Pig, I was thinking we should open a restaurant!”. Pig replies, “Hm, maybe, what would we call it?”. The Chicken responds, “How about ‘ham-n-eggs’?”.
The Pig thinks for a moment and says, “No thanks. I’d be committed, but you’d only be involved.
That’s why men have less legal input into what happens after a pregnancy. Men are involved, but women are committed. Men are still equally responsible for creating the pregnancy, so they should be equally responsible for raising the child. If they aren’t, it’s not womens’ fault for wanting to “have our cake and eat it too;” it’s a symptom of a sick society.
On one point, I agree with you- currently, there’s little incentive for men to stick around after getting a woman pregnant. A freedom isn’t real if it isn’t for everyone, and sexual liberty needs to go both ways. Restricting womens’ liberties kept families together in past centuries, because marriage was the only route to financial security for most women. (Security here doesn’t mean wealth; it means, like, not starving.) It should be obvious that that system is morally wrong, because it limited womens’ options and gave them heavy consequences, while giving men plenty of freedom and fewer consequences.
Men may not have many incentives to stick around and raise their children, but it’s very disheartening to imagine half of the human race acting on only self-interest when it comes to something as basic as families. Raising children that you helped create isn’t about self-interest anymore. It’s about not being a shitty person.