@nikipedia I’m sorry that you feel offended by my answer. There is no magic number of minutes or hours or days that one should spend with their S/O. What I object to, is the fact that a person, man or woman, would think that it’s cute or cool or awesome to spread their marital affection and attention amongst multiple persons who think it’s equally cool or awesome or cute to spread their affections (and sexuality) amongst multiple people. To me, that is offensive. But that’s just me. You can screw whoever you want to.
There is no demand for anyone to get married (and some gay people would die for the chance to have a traditional one on one marriage). If someone simply wants to have multiple sex partners with no comittment (except maybe a fake one called
“open marriage”) then have at it, there are no laws against it.
If you want to screw multiple partners, to each his own. There is no such thing as open marriage. Either you’re married (under the laws of your own state) or you’re having multiple affairs with whomever, either of which is legal. You can do what you want (if you’re straight).
I had a boss who had an “open marriage.” He used that niftly little title to hook up with every chicky who would have him. His first wife agreed to that idea because she thought he would be true to her and would not stray. He banged every female that was willing to buy into his idea of open marriage, because it sounded so free and empowering. What ultimately happened was that his first wife fell in love with someone else, and she filed for divorce. He ended up marrying someone else, without the benefit of the open marriage agreement and guess what? He is now cheating on her, only she doesn’t know about it, at least not officially. Cute huh?
You can bang who you like, and marry who you like (as long as you are straight) and you can be offended as much as you like. But for me, open marriage is a farce.