@Coloma Men benefit from almost ANY relationship…....I don’t think that too many of us guys are that carefree about what relationships they would be!
My current gf does nothing like iron my shirts (seeing as we don’t have kids….lordy no), wake me up in the morning (ha, I wake her up in the morning – and not with my snoring, I do not sleep for very long most nights) etc etc. I think she’s cooked twice since we started seeing each other almost a year ago (27th will be the ‘year’ mark). Relationships shouldn’t be about one person taking the role of caretaker, it’s supposed to be about doing things together without feeling like you have a legally binding obligation to do those things.
I mean no offense whatsoever by this statement but if you’re of the serious belief that being in a relationship is about mothering a guy, then maybe get a guy with a real sense of personal responsibility who isn’t going to rely on his other half to get all the shit done round the house (or whatever). Times have changed and it’s not always about who wears the trousers in a relationship anymore.
You’re probably right about the way things are for your generation, but then again, I think that this kind of thing depends on how different people see how a relationship should be for them as individuals.