I need more information to answer this question. I agree that if this is affecting your grades you should do something about it. However, sometimes in these situations it could be you are going to get an A, because sometimes the caddy group is still very good at their schoolwork, they just take the lead and don’t listen to anyone else.
If this has nothing to do with grades, and they are leaving you out and it is basically a mean girl situation, I say stop caring. If you can plan other things and not be with them do it. When you are with them, smile, say hello, and then be independent of them even in the same room. Remove your emotions of wanting them to play with you in the schoolyard. Many times when we let go of feeling shunned, all of a sudden we become the magnet for attention.
Don’t let them do it to you! They make you feel small so they can feel big, but when you are big on your own the tables turn.
Instead of feeling hurt, be pissed off they are such horrible people who feel just fine about excluding others. I don’t mean you have to be hateful or hold a grudge if they finally come around.
What do you do when you are with them. Do you try to be part of the conversation? Do you sit in a corner? Are you argumentative? Passive? Change how you frame the situation and it will change your actions, your posture, your expressions, and in turn it will change them most likely. They will react to you differently, which means acting differently. I don’t mean you have to think about how to act to get them to be nice to you. No. That is too much time spent wasted on them and bending yourself into a pretzel. All I mean is move away from wanting their attention, and the rest will happen naturally.
@Imadethisupwithnoforethought But your family didn’t like your sister. She made that very nice effort, and they didn’t appreciate it. I agree with those we love and care about being connected with we should make efforts to be interested in what they are interested in. But, it should be reciprocated, or at minimum appreciated. They don’t seem to appreciate her efforts at all.