@bookish1 Actually I think a good deal of those articles are written by disgruntled women who are angry that men aren’t chasing them, or written by women who prefer to be chased at least. Many guys write them too, so I’m not sure what their motivations are.
Fluther does not represent the way most people feel on many issues though, and is essentially a small world so to speak. I’ve asked this question on sodahead, a very conservative website, and most guys said they wished that more women would be a bit more assertive in the initiation process so who knows. I wanted to get mens views about this topic (which is oddly still a controversial one in the year 2013 and in the age of the modern feminist woman) on a more liberal/moderate site.
@dabbler Actually if the woman isn’t directly letting you know that they’re interested in you than I don’t consider the situation any different realistically than if she just sat and stared at you from the other side of a room/bar. I’m not sure if I consider sending ‘signals’ to be assertive, or asking someone out.
@Self_Consuming_Cannibal I do get hit on, and even complimented alot, but it is very situational and they occur with big gaps of nothingness in between them, lol. I agree that the old rudimentary system of men being the pursuer is a bit outdated. Even if women don’t want to ask a guy out they could still do a bit more in my opinion.
I probably wouldn’t even care about this issue, nor would have written this question originally on sodahead, but I have my own personal reasons I guess. Frankly I’m just tired of other guys pestering me to be more assertive like them when it comes to getting women (and I’m not the sleeping around or quick fuck type of guy like they are), or women who pester me to do the same. I need to be a friend to a woman first before I decide to take it further, and I wish that more people would just get that. If it was up to me the concept of a pursuer/pursuee would completely disappear.
@woodcutter Yes, I think that is called the other women tested and approved theory. It’s sad but true.