@Seek_Kolinahr I love Kahlil Gibran as well! He distills everything to a simple understandable essence.
I am currently rereading Women Who Run With the Wolves and came upon this passage:
To make love, if we are to love, bailamos con La Muerte, we dance with Death. There will be flowing, there will be draining, There will be live birth and still birth and yet born-again birth of something new.To love is to learn the steps. To make love is dance the dance.
Energy, feeling, closeness, solitude,desire, ennui, all rise and fall in relatively closely packed cycles. One’s desire for nearness, and for separations, waxes and wanes. The Life/Death/Life nature not only teaches us to dance these, but teaches that the solution for malaise is always the opposite; so new action is the cure for boredom, closeness is the cure for loneliness, solitude is the cure for feeling cramped.
Without the knowledge of this dance, a person is inclined, during various still-water times, to extrovert the need for new and personal action into spending too much money, doing danger, roping reckless choices, taking a new lover….
I don’t know if you will consider this helpful @antimatter but in any case wish you the best in your quest.