@LornaLove Wish I had an SO to turn to. ~ I’m private, too, which is why I haven’t brought it up to any of the friends who live near me (the two friends I mentioned above are the only people with whom I feel at ease sharing certain things because they truly listen and I never feel judged by them). Distance is not my friend right now. lol
@Bellatrix Thank you. Well, it’s nothing out of this world, and certainly not something I won’t get over in time, but I didn’t want to bog you guys down with too many details which is why I left the story itself out of my question. But here it goes: essentially, after over a year of being happily and blissfully single I finally met someone with whom I connected on such a deep level that I truly thought I’d found something special. I hadn’t been looking to get involved with anyone because I spent a good part of this past year trying to get over a failed relationship that left me scarred (I found out that, not only had my ex been cheating on me with someone that worked with me, but he was also married back in his home country). But anyway, I digress. Back to my story: I met a wonderful guy at my friend’s wedding. He’s my friend’s husband’s cousin but they are like brothers and he was the best man at the wedding and I a bridesmaid. We met a few days prior to the big day and had an immediate connection. I wasn’t even aware that he liked me until my friend kept telling me that he was constantly asking about me. The night before I had to return home he asked me out to a play and we had a wonderful time. He even offered to drive me to the airport the next morning, which was two hours away from where we were. We had been texting since I came back on Sunday and I just couldn’t get him out of my mind. I’m not forward at all when it comes to relationships but I knew I had to say something to him about how I felt because I was almost certain the feelings were mutual (which they turned out to be). I texted him yesterday morning and told him that I hadn’t been able to stop thinking about him. I also told him that it wasn’t my intention to put any pressure on him and that I could totally understand if he didn’t feel the same. He messaged me back right away and said that he, too, couldn’t stop thinking about me because he’d had such a great time and was truly happy when he was with me, but that his life has been in crisis for years (my friend had mentioned that he’d battled depression) and he’d also been avoiding relationships all this time and he was finally getting to a good place and didn’t feel comfortable bringing someone into his life yet, not to mention the distance separating us. I understand where he is coming from and am appreciative of his candidness, something I wasn’t used to in my previous relationship. However, even though I was prepared for the worst, it still hurt to realize that it was all an illusion, that I hadn’t found that “special someone” after all. I’m not really the kind of girl who gets caught up with these things and I don’t daydream about meeting “Mr. Right” but I totally let my guard down and fell for him (especially his intelligence and the amount of things we have in common) and now I feel silly and heartbroken. I think my biggest disappointment is in realizing that I will not be able to spend my life with this wonderful guy who is so different from every other guy I’ve ever met and who was so kind and caring and incredibly funny and interested in everything I had to say (and a great kisser, to boot). On the one hand I’m glad I found out sooner rather than later, but on the other hand I kind of wish I hadn’t asked. And I already know that, from now on, I will probably, undoubtedly and subconsciously compare every guy I meet to him. I’m sorry for the lengthy details, but I guess I really needed to get all of that off my chest.