She has been telling people I’m two-faced and a backstabber. I work in a prison so trust is a must and paranoia is abound. My stance is to be nice to everyone I work with whether they are a boss or a newbie, and when I do not like someone I simply avoid them, never talking shit on them.
What ever task I am given I give it my all, recently I’ve been given more responsibilities that don’t (thank God) deal with inmates as much as administrative duties. I’ve been working this job for a good long time and I needed this break!
I understand after reading your comments that yes she is threatened by this move. She believes I’m investigating staff for dirty dealings. Not true. But there have been rumors for years she’s one of the worst. Not my concern since I’ve never witnessed any such thing from her. I only take people as I see them not what others say, so she was until recently, a friend.
The second part of the problem is something I’ve noticed just yesterday, the people who are believing her are the people who need constant approval, I’m already nice to them so they don’t need mine but they see now a way to get hers. She’s often nasty to people. Yesterday when I snubbed these people it was a different story, suddenly they were friendly again.
Once I noticed this I didn’t feel the sadness for my situation as much as with theirs. The tearing up stopped.
People are so incredibly complicated it boggles my mind.
I’ve decided to smile, hold my head up, and talk and joke with those who talk and joke with me. It’s all good, or at least getting better, and I’m glad I had you all to make me see these thing. Thanks much!!