I’ve never used the term and I’m very fond of precision of language so I’m fine with never using it.
But until reading this Q and the one linked to on the other site, it just never occured to me that this had anything to do with anal rape. Perhaps it is because of my years spent teaching in elementary schools where spankings were not unheard of, but I’ve always assumed that this term was used in that context. (or alternately, falling down backwards and landing on the coccyx which really does hurt quite a bit but normally doesn’t last long enough to warrant a fuss.)
And that wpuid also make far more sense to the INTENTION of the word’s use to mean being disproportionately upset over something.
In other words, if someone is “butthurt” they’re making a mountain out of a molehil and overreacting to something trivial.
Being anally raped can certainly not be regarded as trivial in any sense as it would profoundly affect someone for life. Therefore, to use THAT meaning of butthurt to suggest that someone is overreacting to something trivial makes no logical sense at all.
But I’m making that observation as a person fond of precision of language, and in that regard, I find the term in question to be kind of childish so I certainly won’t feel deprived by not seeing it widely used.
But I also disagree that this term is offensive to a majority of people due to its association with forcible rape. That’s just a bridge too far.