@Darth_Algar You are delusional if you think that love is some unwavering, unchanging emotion.
I think the delusion, myself, is when people believe it is true love if tied to something the other person does, doesn’t do, or is. The way you speak of it makes be believe that if your child does something really butt nuggetish, you have to kick them to the curve and stop loving them until they do something worthy enough to earn it back; your pet as well. Why treat the love for people different than the love of wine or food?
You actions will have an effect on another person’s love for you.
Not if they truly loved me. I have known women who loved their man even when he cheated on them, pilfered money from their purse, ran up their credit card and did not offer to help pay any of it off, took their car without permission and either got it towed or wrecked it, etc. they would get angry at him but they could not stop themselves from loving him and thus sticking around and staying in the relationship. Others felt they were being used and abused, (in some cases they were getting slapped around some), but they felt such a deep love for the guy, they could not walk away.
You can destroy another person’s love for you just as sure as you earn that person’s love.
One cannot make or create love in anyone, all they can do is set up the condition where the person crates for themselves the feelings of love for a person or not. If being around _”Betty Jane” or “John Smith” makes a person feel happy, content, etc. THEY will equate their good feeling to that person and love can grow from that. John Smith is not going to get Betty Jane to love him simply because he bought her 12 dozen long-stemmed roses, a house and a fancy new car.