@talljasperman I’m a little confused. The subject line says groping, but a couple people mention spanking in the thread. It looks like the original question was different from the current one; what are you asking?
“Spanked by her lover, Ben Stiller.” Hahahahaha, oh my god. Now THERE’S a mental image I wasn’t expecting today. I’ve never seen that movie. What’s, like, the opposite of thinking something is sexy? The far, far, polar opposite? Oh man, it’s going to take a lot of bourbon brain bleach to get rid of that.
Anyway, the word “groped” has a negative connotation that I don’t think you intended. It means unwanted, aggressive contact, and it sounds like being felt up by a creepy stranger on the metro.
You’ve asked a number of genuine questions about dating lately, so I don’t think that’s what you meant. The spirit of this question seems to be more about consensual boob touching. The only way to know is to ASK someone.
Same with spanking, or any kink- they will tell you, or you have to ask them. It’s really not something to surprise someone with. I think it’s classy to bang them a couple times first and get to know each other a bit, then ask. That makes it easier to have a potentially awkward conversation. A lot of people are into it, you’d be surprised.
Anyway, you might want to write a new question or flag this one and redo it, you’ll probably get more useful answers that way.