@dappled_leaves “Controlling things and being in control are two different things.”
Please explain the difference.
Because it is a question I know at least a few other readers will want to know as well, I will put the cookies on the lower shelf so everyone can reach them (sadly, there will see be some who will). Your parents were in control of your home, as you might over kids you may have now. Just because they were in control of the house, they did not control you, if they did, they would never have need to punish you because you would have always done as they wished in every minute thing. You had free will; you could follow their rules or stay out late and try to sneak in somehow. You had free will to play ball in the house when you shouldn’t have, sometimes nothing happened, other times something would have gotten broken. The way some people try to apply it, if you were horsing around in the house and broke your mom’s favorite lamp, she could have prevented it but somehow directed you, like some tool or puppet, to break the lamp she would be upset that you broke. Things happen in the world because our Lord chose to have a hands-off policy unless you invite him to have an active part. That means just as He will not strike you dead with lightening for lying, He won’t jump in and save the van full of kids from plummeting over the ravine. He is not a genie sitting around for us puny humans to call Him when we need to get out of some funk, then ignoring everything else He desires us to do and for us; He is either going to be a partner in people’s lives, or man is left to be his own god, and man will fix his own crap, since humans think they are so good at that.