Thank you for asking this question. Sending flowers isn’t always the best idea for someone and their family while in the hospital. It is better to look at each scenario individually before deciding how to acknowledge one’s ill health. Here are some thoughts based upon personal experiences.
Flowers They brighten up a hospital room. Unfortunately, there often isn’t much space for an arrangement to be placed. They have become, IMO, the go-to for “I want you to know that I’m thinking of you; don’t know you well enough to send something more personal; want recognition for being sympathetic to your situation.”
When Dad was dying, a friend sent a small planter to the parents’ home. Mom later repotted the plants, and they live on after 22 years. We still thank the couple who sent them. It was more their style (nature) and is a living tribute Dad. Since they were sent to the house, they didn’t require moving them from the hospital.
Visiting It is understandable that people want to visit an acquaintance, friend or family member in the hospital. The intent is good. The effect is that the timing rarely works out. When Mom was in the hospital after surgery and going through physical therapy, there was an on-going flow of people showing up. Rarely was it when it was a good time. Unless a visitation is arranged around the patient’s schedule, it often created a bit of a chaos.
Other thoughtful gestures
* A card is always appreciated. If the person is religious, then send one that pertains to their religion, even if it isn’t what you believe.
* Mom loved fruit and not flower arrangements. A cousin sent her an Edible Arrangement which was a huge hit.
* The spouse is most likely spending a great deal of time at the hospital with her husband. Helping her out behind the scene is more often what people in this situation need. Some simple examples: cut their grass, provide a meal or take her out to dinner, run an errand. Find out what she needs and make it happen. It will be appreciated.