Is there a group local to you that helps abused women. If you don’t know, just do an online search with your zip code to get the phone number. If you only knew how his behavior is so classically typical of an abuser’s pattern. The profuse aplogies and declarations of love alternating with the control and verbal abuse. Every abuser does the exact same thing…absolutely classic.
Whether he has ever physically abused you or not is not the issue. You are in an abusive relationship, period. You are definitely eligible for their help and it would be so wonderful for you if you had someone there to help guide you through all the decisions you’ll need to be making soon in addition to whatever we can do online.
Perhaps it would be best to be rid of the house and begin anew a few years later after your finances stabilize a bit.
But if not, roommates are easy to find from craigslist.com. Just be sure to require references and CHECK THEM OUT.
But whatever you decide, it’s imperative (for your own safety) that you give him no inkling beforehand. Develop a firm plan of action and then just do it.
If worst comes to worst, it’s good you had the smarts to have only your name on all the house paperwork. This will enable you to evict him if needs be. Just make certain that you are in a place of safety and inaccesible to him when you do.
No amount of property (house, car, whatever) is worth your safety and peace of mind. You may have to do some financial belt-tightening for a while but the relief from this constant negativity will be more than worth it. And you will survive and be stronger and more self-sufficient for it. To realize that you can make it on your own without his paycheck (and the soul-destroying price it exacts from you) will be liberating beyond belief. It may be a little rough for awhile but YOU CAN DO IT.
As @LuckyGuy pointed out, you need to make a firm deadline for yourself and stick to it (hopefully some women from the local abuse prevention group can help you out there) and whatever else you do, make certain to get yourself on a birth control method with a 99% success rate NOW. That’s the last complication that this situation needs.
I wish you the best.