People may hate this answer, but I’m going to give it anyway. If you want to be in a relationship, you have to look for it. I admit, I haven’t had to look in a while (married 25 years in August) but I was what a lot of people looked down on, one of those girls who got into serious relationships quickly, and didn’t have a lot of time between relationships. (I guess some people just aren’t designed to be alone and I’m one of them.)
Here are things to think about when you are tired of being alone.
When you meet people, try to look beyond the outward appearance-Try and see if there is a diamond in there. Ask questions, get to know people, be truly interested in who they are as a person and see if you find the value that is not obvious.
Give clues of your interest.- Smile! lean in when they speak, walk beside them, get just barely inside their comfort zone. If they are also interested they will let you stay. If it’s to much they will increase the space and you will know to back off.
Be available- Don’t play coy hard to get games. That doesn’t mean you sit by the phone waiting for it to ring, but there is nothing wrong with letting someone know that you’re happy they called or are happy to see them.
Use their name- When my husband and I first started dating he used my name all the time. He didn’t call me his girlfriend or his date, he just said, “Judi.” I’m not sure why, but it was intoxicating. People love to hear their name more than they admit.
Really, the most important thing is where I started. Be genuinely interested in the person more than pursuing the relationship. Treating people with respect is the most attractive trait a person can have along with kindness and humility.