Agreed with most here. Doesn’t mean he’s gay. It may mean that you two are sexually incompatible though. I really like butt stuff with girls. I’m definitely a ‘butt’ man. Not all girls are into it. And I dont stay with a girl who isn’t. It’s not that I need anal all the time. But I like to do butt stuff with a girl as often as she’ll let me. I Usually don’t pressure them too much. It’s a every now and then thing. A special thing. Its not for everyone. When I’m first getting to know a girl sexually, I definitely have a list of things that I want from the relationship. If the girl won’t meet those desires, then we’re wasting our time. Girls should have a list too, most do. Talking openly and honestly about sex in a relationship is healthy. Two consenting adults should be able to figure out what they like and or tolerate sexually. If they like different things, then they can try what each other like . Or just break up. Sex is important in a relationship, and it’s wrong not to think so. If one person in a relationship isn’t getting what they want, they’re likely to try to get it somewhere else. That can lead to cheating, STDs, hurt feelings etc. Your list is important, and some things on my list are non negotiatible. Some things I just won’t try, others I won’t do without. Part of getting to know a potential mate , is the process of sexual exploration.
Perhaps you should seek a different partner if this is such a ‘pain in the ass.’( pun intended )
Or maybe the way he goes about it or the position could be changed to make it more enjoyable for you. Sometimes, time of day is important with anal. My last girlfriend and I learned not to do it in the morning. Otherwise, I could at least ask. Worst she could say was no…
That being said, if he makes you wear guys clothing , and men’s cologne ,while watching gay porn , while you do anal…...He might be gay.
But again, liking anal sex as a man doesn’t make him gay. Might make him normal….