@MrGrimm888 Did she get half? I only ask again, because that’s an expression used all the time, but some states are not 50/50 states. Did they get married young? Then I can understand no prenup was in place, but if he was already making millions he fucked it up thinking all rainbows and hearts. Wealthy people routinely use prenups.
And, about wealth, if you want to have reasonable wealth, married people statistically have much more wealth. They also tend to define roles in the marriage, and often there are at least some periods where one spouse is not working. They are taking care of children or supporting the working spouse in ways that are not paid, but it helps the working spouse in their success. These roles switch around throughout the marriage. That’s why people get half, or alimony, because what they did counts to.
The working spouse made a deal that she/he would be the one to earn money and support the family, so the couple both own the money and assets in their entirety. That’s what being married is. You two are one unit. Whether you have the paper or not, that is what your commitment to each other should be. Now, I have absolutely no problem with prenups when there s a situation of extreme wealth, and some other very valid reasons, but you don’t get to stiff your spouse out of everything if the relationship dissolves.
If you want to keep all the money separate and let her pay for her things and him pay for his things and split the rent, and the food bill, then that’s fine, but when taken to an extreme it’s tiresome. When you aren’t legally married it has to be more extreme to protect yourself.
You’re worried the girl was a gold digger? What is the guy just saying I love you so he can have sex with her, and parade her around, and then when he gets tired leave her in the sewer? You can criticize both if you want to talk about bad intentions. Most people don’t have bad intentions. They intend to stay married forever. Dissolving a relationship is traumatizing in many ways.