Yes. Trying to help usually backfires. I’ve tried here and there. Once in a while it’s a appreciated. I also often think we need to know that we are not in the other person’s shoes, and some assumptions we make from the outside aren’t valid or fair sometimes.
In the last few weeks I’ve tried to give a little nudge to a friend of mine, but she just thinks so differently than me that just yesterday I thought to myself I’m going to give up on it. Not that I was specifically bringing up a topic and trying to manipulate her, she keeps bringing it up, and I have been very honest in my thoughts when she asks my opinion, and I guess I’ve also offered my perspective when not necessarily directly asked. Yesterday, I decided I’ll probably just switch to listening and agreeing.
I wouldn’t be surprised if some of my friends or family members think I do the same mistakes or bad choices over and over again.