I have never felt physically threatened by females groping me, that’s true. I have worried about my job though. Just last night, the wife of an affluent venue owner stopped by me and introduced me to her aunt. They then proceeded to stroke my beard, and caress my arms and chest. The older aunt lifted up my shirt, commenting on my tattoos. I felt like a slave at the market. I just stood there, as I wouldn’t dare insult the women. I don’t need counseling over it, but it was highly inappropriate.What if two men did that to a younger woman? I’m sure it happens. But here is a gleaming example of a double standard in society, and how people (not just men) take advantage of their roles in society.
I have learned that my sex drive is higher than average. So I’m not speaking for all men here. Personally, when I see an attractive female, I am powerfully drawn to them. Sometimes, I just have to stare. If I get busted, I look away, but that’s the extent of my self control. I am just being honest. Hopefully this doesn’t make me a sexual predator in some eyes.
I can see the point brought up about eye contact, and the apparently deliberate “eye rape.” That’s valid, and understandable. I had a large gay man do this to me once. I simply glared back at him, and was ready to knock his teeth down his throat if he got too close. I guess women, in most cases, don’t have that option.
I say, if possible, get loud about “leerers.” I know a lot of female bartenders that are great at calling guys out.
Bottom line is the world’s full of assholes, I guess…