The main thing that I’ve learned in my lifetime is that we ALL are experts in what we’ve personally experienced!!! However, many feel they know exactly how others feel or should act & have NEVER experienced the situation…ONLY think they know how they would have responded/reacted. The truth is that most people have NO CLUE what they would do UNLESS they have actually experienced it!!!
I’ve found it to be common among people in general that they fear what they don’t understand!!! Instead of trying to participate in discussions where something that makes them uncomfortable in order to learn new things…much like an Ostrich, they stick their heads in the sand…or even attack to get the OP to drop the subject so they don’t have to face their discomfort!!!
I know when I first joined Fluther that I met some wonderfully welcoming people who made me feel at home. Then there were the Fluther bullies who felt that they were in charge & made it their goal in life to teach me my place. I had planned to leave then realized that I was allowing myself to be bullied & I DON’T accept being bullied. So, I regrouped & returned!!! Now, that I’ve learned who the bullies are, I just don’t swim with them. I don’t participate in their Q’s & I don’t allow them to engage me when they attack. Now my time here is back to being fun!!!
Fluther can be as cruel as it can be nice!!! Much like real life, you just need to pick & choose who you allow into your life!!! The harder they try to push you away, the closer in you should become. They are trying to pass on THEIR stress but you DO NOT “have to accept” it!!!
You should be an advocate for your child & their struggles…NOT an advocate for those who do NOT understand!!!
You’re going to be told that you’re wrong for speaking your mind on this subject. As I said earlier, people fear what they don’t understand!!!
@Aethelwine As one of those who initially welcomed me to Fluther…HUGGGGG. If you need to unload, you know where to find me!!!