No, that’s not how it was meant either @ScienceChick. It wasn’t meant to refer to anything, except that usually people feel very sorry for children who are orphans. The very word “orphan,” just sounds really sad because of our normal association with it.
Different people react to their parent’s death differently. The FB friend was, apparently, good friends with her mother. It just came out of the blue and it it hit her very, very hard.
The death of my ex’s mother hit him really hard, which I don’t understand. He never spoke to her. We only saw her one time in the 10 years we were together. They weren’t very close. But it leveled him to the point that it ended up being part of the cause for our divorcing.
I wasn’t that close to my father, mainly due to his being distant, so his death was very sad, but it wasn’t devastating. He lived 2000 mile away and I rarely saw him.
My Mom was physically absent for most of my adult life. In the end poor Mom suffered from dementia and her final months were just tragic. Those final months were so, so horrible that they leveled me, tore my heart out. Her death was almost a relief…in fact, she hastened it. The last year she couldn’t move or talk or communicate. Then one morning she clenched her teeth when they tried to feed her. She refused to let them feed her.
Hospice called. Their suggestion was just continue to to try once in a while, in case she changes her mind, but other than that, respect her wishes and let her go.
It’s different for everyone.