We both work full time, so chores, including cooking, are very much shared.
What to have is always a joint decision. We have, I’d say, less than ten meals we make on a regular basis. Some are relatively high effort and some are low. We always have a conversation in the evening about what sounds tasty and how much effort we feel capable of expending, and we pick something based on that.
My appetite is extremely bad and I often have to obey my cravings in order to get a sane number of calories into me, so I will say it’s more common for Matt to defer to what I want rather than the reverse. I appreciate that he does that for me.
We almost always cook together. The only exception is when one of us is feeling crummy, like tonight I have a bad cold and Matt is cooking, or if someone’s had a particularly rough day of work or something.
It works really well :) Matt knew nothing about cooking before we started dating, so I taught him, and I’m not exactly a master chef either. But we’ve improved together, and we’ve refined the recipes we make on a regular basis so they’ve gotten pretty yummy.