@Unofficial_Member ” being seen in the public taking money out of a donation can (no stranger will stop and ask why, they’ll think of you as a shameless person for doing that)”
You seem to be way too concerned about what other people think of you. It’s a sickness, and you should think about trying to get over it. For someone who feels like their money was taken from them fraudulently, I imagine that wanting justice negates any worries about being seen as shameless. Also, think about how foolish an onlooker would have to be to draw such conclusions without knowing the facts.
“You called it “donation”, that means you’re not supposed to take it back after you donate it.”
I never called it a “donation.” In fact, I haven’t used the word “donation” in any of my answers until now. That’s what you’ve been calling it, but I think your word choice obscures the fact that the money is being obtained fraudulently. Let’s think about a different situation: a person on the street tries to trick me into buying flowers for someone who they know is deathly allergic to them. I purchase the flowers and am about to hand them to this person when they tell me they will die if they touch them. Is it ungenerous to stop handing them the flowers? Is it ungenerous to ask demand my money back and perhaps call the police for attempted murder? I don’t think so. When the information we have available changes, then our decisions and feelings ought to change with it. When the facts change, I change my mind. Do you just plow through no matter what even when you learn new things?
“If you’re generous to give your money in the first place, the reverse is also true, that you’re ungenerous to want to take it back, regardless of the circumstansces what’s given is given.”
Nope. This is a logical fallacy. When circumstances change, our evaluation of actions must also change. If your thinking was true, there would be no difference between shooting a gun at a target when the range is empty and shooting a gun at a target when there is someone in the way. It’s the same action, and only the circumstances are different. If that’s really how you think, then you have a pretty messed up mind.