I’ve never been raped.
I know a lot of women who have been raped. I know them in real life and here on fluther.
Most were date raped or party situations.
I can think of three that were stranger rape. Although, one of them they wound up suspecting someone in the community. She was violently raped, using objects and killed. It was a horrific story. I didn’t know her well, I knew her sister only as an acquaintance. It was in the newspapers.
Another stranger rape was the daughter of one of the people on my staff when I worked at Bloomingdales. Her daughter was in her 30’s at the time. She was driving out of the Target parking lot, stopped to merge onto the main road, and when she stopped the guy jumped into her passenger seat (always lock your doors) and he had a weapon (I don’t remember if it was a gun or knife). He made her drive to a construction area where no one was around, and he raped her. He had raped before in some northern state and was visiting his sister in Florida. They eventually caught him. I think they knew because of DNA.
The last stranger rape was a friend of a friend. She lived on the second floor, left her sliding glass door to the balcony open while she slept, and he cane into her apartment and raped her.
The date rapes range from girls and women being coerced to be physically held down and raped.
In most cases it significantly changes the girls/women. I mean god they use it as a weapon in times of war.
Like so many things, if people can’t physically see the scars they don’t take the trauma as seriously. Similar to people with chronic illness who suffer daily, but look healthy.