I think it’s human nature to seek out meaning among truly random noise. Humans are very poor at understanding chance, and the fact that real random data has a lot more clumps in it.
I remember seeing a video (or reading about) about a professor who asks the students to pick 100 random numbers from 1–6 and write them on the chalkboard and then roll a 6-sided die 100 times and write those results on a second chalkboard. The professor would leave the room and return once the task was done. Without fail, every semester the professor would pick which board was randomly-generate with a die vs. chosen by the students. How? Actually random rolls produce streaks, runs of the same number many times in a row. For example, in the above experiment, the odds that you would get a streak of 3-in-a-row is just over 91%. In other words, it is very unlikely NOT to have streaks in the data, which is how the professor would always pick the right board.
You could simply be one of those people who got lucky on many dice rolls in a row. That’s the nature of chance. It’s such a simple idea, and yet incredibly difficult for us to wrap our heads around. I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s daughter. Sending you positive thoughts and heartfelt condolences.