I don’t do well with confrontation, so I tend to be passive unless someone confronts me first.
What helps me is to not think too hard about a good time, but as long as we’re alone, to just start talking. Once the topic is coming out of my mouth, there can be no turning back. I may be saying to myself “I don’t believe I’m actually saying this” but it will be coming out.
This reminds me of something I’ve been fretting over. My daughter’s twin friends’ mom asked me to take their two guinea pigs in the fall, 7 months ago, when they were having work done in their house and also simultaneously the mother had a personal crisis going on. So I took the guinea pigs, cages, etc. and then she never asked for them back (with the work completed in the house but the personal crisis still ongoing) and I didn’t push it. Around December, one guinea pig died and in February, the other one died. I never told her, and I don’t know if the girls would be upset at this point or not care, but I keep putting it off. Next weekend (in a week and a half), I’ll be hosting a small party for my daughter’s birthday, and I want to tell her prior to that,. I don’t want the girls to come into the house expecting to see the guinea pigs. So I’m in the same spot you’re in right now.