I think you should only do what you are comfortable with.

I think I would want to meet the parents if my child was that young, but I would likely not feel I had to stay for the whole date. Although, I don’t think it is completely unreasonable to be there the first time. Just 4 years old is very young and you don’t know her or her home.

I wouldn’t worry about her being offended, she shouldn’t be if she is. Maybe invite the boy to your house and the mom.

No. You can’t trust people you know, let alone people you don’t know. It is evident the other kid’s mother has issues because any sensible parent would understand the apprehension of others and try to reassure them as opposed to get offended. It is not about her, it’s about your child and you..

No way! Small town folks are WAY overprotective, nothing matters more than your kids safety.
Usually we know each others family for generations so her being offended is very odd since you’ve never met.

Nope. Especially at that age, I would get to know the parents first.

No! I think it’s a huge red flag that she reacted as she did.
Although random drop offs seems common in that town, you are new to the town, and your child’s safety comes first.

The best parents I know keep watch on the families where their kids hang out, right through the teen years.

“I’m going to Tina’s house.”

“Cool. Have Tina’s mom or dad call me first. Thanks!”

If Tina’s parents have not been clued in, or they can’t be bothered, playdate cancelled.

If your child really wants to play with this kid, I would ask the Mom and her child to come to your house first. You could explain to being new to the town, you feel you want to get to know the parents of your child’s friends. But I agree with the others that you are acting in a correctly protective way and should not feel in any way in the wrong. It’s very odd that she was offended.

@Call_Me_Jay The OP was communicating with the other parent via text.

You said you’re uncomfortable with it, and he’s your son, and you have every right to know where and who he’s with. You can never be too careful these days. Not that you have to become big friends with the mom or have much in common, but nice to know your son is in an okay and safe environment with good people. I don’t see a reason see should be offended. I say don’t.

Thanks!!!

Yes.

^ Apparently you don’t watch Dateline.

No way in hell. More so a little four year old.

I wouldn’t be OK with that for my 9 year old even. Out of the question.