I think that as a society we have lost a certain connectivity. 75 years ago people knew the other people in their neighborhood. They would talk and share life together. They got to know each other. And when something happened to one of the neighborhood, others would pitch in to help. In more recent years, that social link has been severed. People don’t know their neighbors. They don’t have the investment in other people. But it can be changed.
I organized a block party in our neighborhood. I got about 60 people to come. At that party neighbors met neighbors, long time residents met new residents, and relationships that have lasted for years were established. It just took a relatively small effort to break down the wall of isolation between each other. Then, a couple years later, one person’s house in the neighborhood was struck by lightning and caught fire in the attic. The FD came and put out the flames but the house was a complete mess. The wife was pregnant with their first baby and was a complete wreck. But as soon as the insurance guy left, there were people from the neighborhood showing up. We had about 20 people that just showed up…no one had to call them, no one had to ask them to help. Everyone just started cleaning up, salvaging what could be salvaged, taking care of the pregnant wife, someone went and got burgers and dogs so we could grill them and feed the group, a neighbor brought over a big box trailer that the couple could use to store the belongings that were being salvaged in.
As for the idea that your family didn’t support you, I will say that may be. I’ve known other dysfunctional families that don’t support each other. But you recognize this and recognize it as something wrong. Don’t continue to feed that monster. Don’t isolate yourself…be what you think your parents should have been. Don’t isolate yourself from others. Opening yourself up to others you will find that there are some out there that will want to use you and take advantage of you or even just to hurt you. But you will also find a lot of people that will be drawn to you.