[mod says] I’m glad you’re bringing this up. It’s good to talk about your discomfort and try to find a solution.
I was pretty young when I first discovered Fluther, and it was fairly easy for me to avoid the threads that seemed too mature for me (but culturally, I guess Europe is more open in general, so I was probably less protected and more desensitized in daily life).
We do our best to keep question titles safe for work and family. I remember the thread you mean, and its title is not obscene. The word “incest” is not obscene, even if many people would agree that the concept is.
I think maybe you need to make a point of steering clear of those questions if you don’t feel good about them? That’s okay. It’s healthy to watch out for yourself like that. In fact, it’s a good skill for all teens and young adults to practice, because as you become an adult, parents and society will be watching out for you less and less. That does not mean you’re required to have a handle on everything – it means you’re trusted to protect yourself. You’ll have to learn how much of the news you can absorb safely, what movies make you uncomfortable, how much (if any) alcohol you can drink safely, etc. I never watch horror movies because I cannot handle those. I get too anxious afterwards. I don’t even tend to listen to true crime podcasts, even though they’re very interesting to me. I’m my own parent now, and I have to tell the impulsive child within me that certain things are just not healthy for my mind. Experiencing what’s too much is part of learning. When I was 18, I watched the movie “Misery” by Stephen King. Yup. Didn’t sleep well for a year, still can’t look at Kathy Bates.
So, I’d advise you to stay away from the vast spaces of internet that aren’t appropriate for you at this stage in your development. That creepy feeling is your guide. Don’t even click on the thread. Unfollow the discussion if it unexpectedly gets too mature. Send us a message if a question title is inappropriate or if there’s no NSFW tag, and wander over to the many parts of Fluther that are perfectly tame. You’re in an environment of adults and you may feel out of your depth at times, but I think as the internet goes, you’ve found a pretty safe corner. The people here tend to be kind and protective of each other. And if anything is making you uncomfortable, let us know and we’ll always try to help.